Being sick as a single person

Churning butter

Churning butter. No way. I buy it.

It was several weeks ago that I put the butter in the mixer bowl to “soften.” Honestly, yes, several weeks. And that’s because I kept getting sick and pooping out on planned projects and imagined extra activities.

Hey, I kept it covered with the butter wrapper so it didn’t get dusty. Did you know that butter keeps astoundingly well sitting outside the refrigerator? Probably the salted kind keeps even better than the unsalted, which is what I use.

Anyway, I’ve got this fabulous-smelling quickbread/cake thing in the oven. It’s a recipe that will be appearing—if it’s as good as she says!—in my upcoming cookbook. I haven’t named the book yet; thinking about a couple of different titles but I know I want to get single women in there somehow.

Anyway, I’ve been remiss about the SWWAN blog for a while for the same reason the butter sat out, abandoned. It’s been a bear battling the various mysterious pneumonias and sinus infections and so on that have come to visit me this year. Hardly been well since January, except for a week here and there. And I noticed how fear took over when I was sick for more than a few days. I wondered if this was it—is this the illness that’s going to do me in?  Maybe that fear is more a function of advancing age plus serious heart issues, but being sick sure reminds me how very much my friends and family members mean to me—and how much I, as a single woman, depend on them. Single folks without any family have to depend even more on friends.

I’m feeling better now and I’m delighted to see more new SWWAN members. We do have an exciting event planned for Single Working Women’s Week this year. Once you check it out, if you want to help raise money for the wonderful work of our American Red Cross—and win some cool prizes—you can get your cake piece or raffle tickets here.

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Single working women and illness


Ever been hospitalized or had occasion to be out of commission for a while? Some of the big corporations have short-term disability as a benefit (if you’re sick more than X days this insurance plan pays your salary). Other companies are just very nice to their employees and pay them even during an extended convalescence. But for those with less-generous employers and for the self-employed, a longer disability of even a month can pose a serious financial problem. Not to mention if you need assistance during your recovery.

Some women are lucky to have family members who can help. But the critical factor for most single women is having developed a network of friends and acquaintances who will rise to the occasion and be there for you. Found this section on friends and illness for single women in excerpts from another interesting book, “Flying Solo: Single Women in Midlife” by Carol M. Anderson, Susan Stewart, Sona Dimidjian.

Thus, the ability to find and make friends becomes an even more important skill for single women than for most other people. As SWWAN grows, we hope to become a place where single working women can proudly identify themselves, find each other more easily, and potentially get to know each other. We’re starting with our Ning social network–still building the infrastructure but will keep you informed. And as the social environment becomes more welcoming to singles, we’re also going to be offering opportunities for single women who want to learn to reach out more effectively.

Lots to do. We look forward to our journey!