Neither singles nor children should be the losers

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Read this today about men versus women at work and the role of children in reducing productivity. And should fathers who put more hours in because they don’t ever have to take care of their children get promoted over women who do? Have to comment.

Children can indeed be distracting at work. But the welfare of America depends on the good care of future generations. Comparing watching a football game with make sure a child is safe and protected simply doesn’t make sense. Having said that, though, there’s no reason why men shouldn’t be able to bring their children to work as much as women. Why differentiate? A good questions is, how many men would be willing to risk what they might consider “damage” to their male image by showing up at work with a kid?

With 51% of women today being single–many of them single mothers who may not have any extra help at home–it’s crazy not to think of ways to help all people with children be as fully productive as possible. By the same logic, single people should not be expected to carry extra burdens at work. Yet they may need time off to care for a friend or relative and not be able to get it. That’s not right either.

It’s about valuing each individual and helping each other, not fighting over–to coin a phrase from When Harry Met Sally–“this is yours; that’s mine.” There’s a ton of room for improvement in our society’s attitudes about family policy.

SWWAN winner announced at last!

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Beth accepts her SWWAN Week prize at Radiance Fine Jewelry where the event was held this August. Beth is on the left, and Rebecca, owner of the store and one of the original SWWAN vendors (25% off jewelry repair services for all SWWAN members!).

We’re excited to say that we were finally able to award Beth Bradfish, winner of the drawing at this year’s Single Working Women’s Week celebration, with the beautiful, bountiful basket of beauty products and other goodies from Nails by Michelle in Villa Park, Illinois (call for an apointment at 630.834.0004).

We’re also glad to say Beth plans to join our SWWAN vendor program for her unique coaching programs. Welcome, Beth. And tremendous thanks to Nails by Michelle for their generous and imaginative gift.

How far would you go to clear the clutter?

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An old friend has decided her home/space is too crowded. But can you imagine–she’s going to live without a TV and VCR? I’m sure I could adapt eventually, but it seems that television/movies have been pretty good friends for a couple of years(especially during a recent recuperation–though I’m reading a LOT, too).

It’s a hard habit to break because it’s so easy to just settle down and let yourself be entertained. Watched Amadeus last night–I remember when I first saw it years ago I was so turned off by the way the guy played Mozart’s character (sleazy and laughing like an idiot) that I refused to watch it. Turns out it was pretty good once I got past that part. And the MUSIC! I like movies with good music in them. I love the movie Ray, and Walk the Line, and the one about the life of Jerry Lee Lewis.

How far would you go to clear out your life? What would you be willing to give up? How hard do you think it would be for you to adapt to life without TV or movies? Imagine if we had a massive electrical failure (like we did several years ago when the grid went out for a couple of days) and we’d have not only no TV but also no computers! I think I’m going to get on the Internet right now and buy one of those hand-crank-powered radios. Hey, maybe I’ll even buy a manual typewriter so I can keep writing. But then…I’d just be putting more clutter in my space.

On second thought, my hand-written journals have always been a comfort when I’ve had time. Guess without computers, I’d have a lot of time since these days, as a freelance writer, I’m in front of one virtually 10 to 12 hours a day. I remember vaguely there’s a non-computerized way for writers to make a living, but it can’t be as easy as writing from my home office.

Does your clutter ever get you down?

Have a kid, lose a job – the sad state of affairs for American moms and famliies

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What an amazing organization! At Momsrising.org they are fighting all over the United States for legal rights and fair treatment for mothers of all kinds, single and married, who are discriminated against in the work place. According to their research, single moms make only 60% of what men make, even less than the average woman. Then adding it all up, female college grads forfeit a million dollars over their careers.

In the US, mothers and familiies receive less support than in any other industrialized country.

Parents must have time to bond with newborn or newly adopted. Bonding decreases infant mortality, improves child health, reduces juvenile delinquency. Yet only 1 in 7 US mothers receives paid childbirth leave. We are at the bottom in this area – US is on par with New Guinea and Swaziland.

Calif. is the only state that has mandatory 6 weeks’ paid leave for parents. The American Federation of Labor advocated for it there. It’s financed because Calif. workers agreed to pay through small payroll deductions.

I got this information and a cool DVD–The Motherhood Manifesto–about it from Kiki Peppard, a single mom who’s been fighting for 10 years to end discrimination against mothers in PA. She moved there from New York and no one would hire her when they found out she was a single mom!

Here are a few more points and some organizations worth knowing about:

Center for New American Dream – “More of what matters.” 4 day week, flexible hours. Time off for kid stuff.

Center for Work-Life Law. No benefits for part-timers hurts mainly women. Business in gen. will not address.

Once businessman learned he was unwittingly discriminating against women. His decision to give everyone flexible hours attracted new, stronger talent, turnover slowed dramatically. Business is great, costs are down.

We need legislation like European – equal treatment for part-timers and flexible hours. UK – soft-touch law, through which any employee can ask employer to grant a different schedule- compressed work week, etc. when need to care for child.

If we give workers flexibility, productivity does NOT have to go down.

The Motherhood Project- concerned about the media, US kids spend 8 hours a day connected. 1000 murders, doubled sexual incidents on TV, millions of children
home alone after school. More juvenile crimes up during times kids are unsupervised. Need more after-school programs. Seattle pays for buses to take kids home after scchool.

Health care. Medical bills figure in 50% of all bankruptcies. People without insurance are 2-3 times more likely to die of same disease as those with. 9 million US kids have no insurance. Life expectancy, mother/child mortality we are far below other nations. Should have all kids insured through program like Medicare. this plus paid sick leave would make a huge difference for mothers.

Center for Social Law/Policy. Children get better faster when parents are around. Only US does not require paid sick leave, incl. time to care for kids.

Childcare – quality matters.average cost of childcare is more than cost of university tuition. Average child care worker earns $17000/year. There’s a union for home child care providers in Chicago. The US once passed a universal child care bill–Richard Nixon vetoed it.

Equal Rights Advocates – fights for minimum wage.
Take Back Your Time – fights for well-rounded life rights.

A Better Balance – young lawyers on work/family conflict. More flexiibility, esp. for low-income workers.

The balancing Act – bill for Rep. Woolsey. Women’s #1 issue is no free time, not enough time.

Quicky novel review: One single woman's funny story

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It’s a novel, but it has the ring of truth to it–Life’s A Beach, by Claire Cook, bestselling author of Must Love Dogs. Truly funny and entertaining story of woman who is single again at 41 and living above her parents ‘ garage and trying to be an artist and figure out what she wants to do with her life. Depictions of her relationships with her parents, sister and boyfriend are wonderful. Seems she’s always keeping “one foot out the door.”

In a revealing argument with the boyfriend-she-can’t-seem-to-get-settled-with, they appear to be discovering their true feelings about the other’s choice of pets–but are really commenting on each other’s attitudes about their relationship:

“Cats, ” he said slowly and clearly, ” are for people who don’t really want to go out of their way. They’re as close as you can get to not having a pet. ” “Oh, okay ,” she counters, “Dogs, dogs are as close you can get to having a person in your life without really having one.”

This is just one of the many books we list and review for you on our website. We’re building a nice reading list–check out some other book and movie reviews.

Single working women – our votes can influence history

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Hard to believe that only 90 years ago some of our Grandmothers and Great-grandmothers were in the streets fighting for a woman’s right to vote. And back in the early 1900s some women even got arrested, beaten and tortured in the fight.

But believe it: women—especially single working women who have voted in lower numbers in the past—could have a dramatic impact on election results by casting their ballots in force. Perhaps because women are so busy–and some of us might feel confused or hopeless about making a difference–women tend not to vote. Believe that your vote is critical. REGISTER to vote if you haven’t. You’ve got ’til October 6. Check out your Secretary of State’s website to see if you can register online You can also register in person at a public library, motor vehicle bureau or county board of elections.

Learn the truth about candidates

How do you know who to vote for? Some of us inform ourselves and vote strictly along party lines. But in order to truly make the most informed choice, what we really need to do is get a cross-section of opinions. Don’t just trust the ads and the party-line websites. Check out the following for information and commentary about where presidential candidates stand on issues.

www.realclearpolitics.com/
www.thepage.com/

P.S. I’ve just removed one of the sources I had originally listed because I did some reading after receiving a comment from a reader and realized that I had named a source that I don’t now believe to be truthful or clear. My apologies for not checking my sources more carefully.