The truth! Why we don't (much) like being naked

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Been working through the “8 Minutes” book I told you about a couple of posts ago and ran across this interesting factoid about babies…

In the days when humans lived outside and didn’t wear much clothing, they had a lot of a different kind of fat, the kind that still surrounds our inner organs. Apparently babies have a much higher percentage of this – called “brown fat” – which burns calories and turns them into heat. That’s why babies always feel warm when you hold them and why they love to be naked much more than we adults!

Flaxseeds and flaxseed oil contain this type of fat–a product known to actually suppress your appetite!

A very svelte and savvy woman I know says buy the ground flaxseeds–much less expensive than the oil–and sprinkle them on your food. She uses this on her baked potatoes (along with fat-free yogurt–yum, that’s what I use), salads, and anything else that benefits from a touch of oil.

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Barbara Payne, November 29th 2007 | Posted in appetite suppressant, brown fat, flaxseed oil, flaxseeds, ground flaxseed, naked

Moms having to go to work

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If you ever feel bad (and who doesn't?) about having to leave your little one to go to work, you should watch this program about the life of penguins that I'm watching on Animal Planet TV–it’s The March of the Penguins.

I have seen lots of programs about penguins, but never one so attentive to the details of their existence and so sensitive to the dilemmas of their lifestyle. All I can think is, what was God thinking to make these creatures’ lives so hard? Now, clearly God knows what He's doing, so that seems like a crazy question. But maybe it's just this–that we human beings who struggle with our parenting issues can look at these valiant animal models and feel that we don't have it so bad after all.

I hope you'll have an opportunity to watch this soulful look at one of mother Nature's most extraordinary life stories. It's enlightening and inspiring.

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Barbara Payne, November 26th 2007 | Posted in Uncategorized

Build your own support team

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Many of us grew up with less-than-ideal levels of acceptance and encouragement. That reality generally follows us into our adult years and can play havoc with our ability to make healthy, wise choices for ourselves. Why else are we running into a life coach at every corner these days? Now that there's some accepted wisdom on how to combat the consequences of poor early conditioning—and that wisdom has become teachable—understandably women want to share the knowledge (and hope to make a living by doing so).

I'm just reading a very interesting book called “8 Minutes in the Morning for Extra Easy Weight Loss.” In it author Louis stresses the importance of asking for help—connecting with others, improving your ability to reach out—as a critical weight loss aid. Which is, of course, the idea behind Weight Watchers' group meetings and weigh-ins and so on. It's also a big factor in the 12-step approach. But in this book, he tells you how to create your own team from among people you know.

No money, no need to go out of the house to meetings (which can get pretty tough for already-overburdened working women). I got it out of the library, and I'm enjoying the really simple exercises (I've been doing aerobics for over 25 years and I won't change that) that you do first thing in the morning. It's a fresh approach to eating right and exercise. Recommend reading.

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Barbara Payne, November 18th 2007 | Posted in aerobics, exercise, life coach, lose weight, weight loss, weight loss aid

A bank that's listening

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Sat next to an extraordinary woman today. Linda Stevenson almost single-handedly got National City Bank to believe that supporting women as business owners was not only a socially valuable idea (we are so excited about that!) but also a financially sound idea in terms of building business for the bank. Impressive accomplishment—and kudos to the guiding lights at Nat City for opening their minds. Will be inviting her to appear on www.swwan.org/swwan_dive/ soon.

We happened to be sitting next to each other at the Chicago WeDo event—a seminar on Intellectual Property co-sponsored by National City and a number of other companies that strongly support women in business. Met a number of dynamic women business owners, learned about things you should know when your business gets beyond the kitchen table (and maybe before!) including how to think about expanding revenue streams by licensing.

It’s enlightening to hear legal and accounting people talk about business planning—perspectives many of us don’t think about when we first get rolling. But a recent seminar at another bank-sponsored event was titled, “Begin with the end in mind.” So if you want to have a business that can get bigger than just paying the bills, you’ll want to think about these things. Check out the National City WeDo tour.

And, oh, yeah, if you’re a woman in the Chicago area interested in starting or growing your business and want to talk to a banker, call Meghan Kearns at National City, 773.252.7140.

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Barbara Payne, November 14th 2007 | Posted in financing for women business owners, Linda Stevenson, Meghan Kearns, National City Bank, single women in business, WeDo Tour, women-friendly bank

Race and gender–side by side

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Watching an old PBS video. "Unforgivable Blackness" about the great boxer Jack Johnson. He was the original black fighter who transformed the game from a whites-only sport in turn-of-the-century America.

A description of Johnson’s fighting style sounds a lot like that of the former heavyweight champion Muhammed Ali. “He often fought to punish his opponents rather than knock them out, endlessly avoiding their blows and striking with swift counters.” And Ali was clearly inspired by his enthusiastic approach to fame, too.

Johnson believed in being as ostentatious and noticeable as possible. The fighter was always at odds with the attitude of his contemporary, Booker T. Washington–who thought black people should accept their place and be quietly industrious. The direct quotes from real people of the time were fascinating. Love this one about the attitude of the media of the day:
"Anything that was considered a positive trait in the white fighter was turned into a profoundly negative characteristic when exhibited by the black fighter."

Sound familiar, anybody?

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Barbara Payne, November 8th 2007 | Posted in Booker T. Washington, gender prejudice, Jack Johnson boxer, Muhammed Ali, racism, sexism

Who are you?

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So many of us are raised in fear. We all need and want our parents’ approval and encouragement. Some of us get it in fair measure, and others get little or none. After all, many of our parents weren’t raised by people who’d had terrific support–it’s a long vicious cycle.

Found this great quote on successful-PR-expert Kirsten Osolind‘s Facebook site:

“All my life I had been looking for something, and everywhere I turned someone
tried to tell me what it was. I accepted their answers too, though they were
often in contradiction and even self-contradictory. I was naïve. I was looking
for myself and asking everyone except myself questions which I, and only I,
could answer. It took me a long time and much painful boomeranging of my
expectations to achieve a realization everyone else appears to have been born
with: that I am nobody but myself.”

“The harder we fought, the more threatening the men became…”

– Ralph Ellison, “Battle Royal”

I was moved to comment:

So applicable to so many of us women–waiting for approval or permission. At SWWAN we are working on making the world a safer place for women to step out of the shadows and be themselves in spite of society’s discomfort.

“A single woman represents chaos. Woman belongs only in a marriage or in a convent.” …line from a famous South American fim that I can’t remember the name of right now.

How have you gone about finding yourself? How much do you rely on the approval of others? It can be tough to believe in yourself when you don’t fit into an accepted pattern–don’t meet people’s expectations for “normal.” Single women, more than many others, have to face this reality every day. Thanks, Kirsten.

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Barbara Payne, November 5th 2007 | Posted in African single women/mothers, convent, courage, finding yourself, meeting expectations